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2016 has begun with the losses of a number of figures who were inspirational to many in my generation, whether just from the giving of pure enjoyment or from the actual influence on how we create or represent art or ourselves.

Grieving is a personal thing, and how we handle news of this sort is as well. We never expect those we look up to to leave us - it is human nature to consider the world we know now as immutable and that we will continue to be surrounded by our mentors, whether direct or indirect, and by those we love.

However, I would encourage those of this generation to pause for a moment before sending out the now-clich├ęd "this year is fired" or "2016 you suck" or "please stop it" responses.

We are of an age where these losses are inevitable. We do our own mental states a grave disservice if we constantly consider our present ruined by such events, because we will simply not be able to avoid them and we therefore guarantee ourselves misery now after now after now. EVERY year will be fired. EVERY year will suck. EVERY year will have people passing whom we admired and followed.

That doesn't mean we don't feel deep sorrow at such passings. It simply means that by defining the moments of our lives solely in terms of such losses is a poor way to honor those memories.

We have people and events that mean much more to us than those public figures do. Perhaps we should save the ultimate tagging of a year as irretrievably broken for their passing or illnesses - for those things that are the most important to us.

Date: 2016-01-14 04:56 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] madfilkentist
By Grabthar's Hammer, everything ends. If Alan Rickman hadn't done his wonderful movie roles, we wouldn't have noticed his death, but we'd have been poorer for it than we are.

Date: 2016-01-14 09:19 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] sibylle
Thank you for this insightful post - I agree - the crux (and the blessing) of getting older is that the people one admires get older too, and thus, like you wrote, those losses will be inevitable. They make me sad, but they also really make me want to see my friends and loved ones more, as they remind me that, indeed, time is short, and mortality an unalterable fact of being alive.

Date: 2016-01-14 09:57 pm (UTC)
From: [identity profile] ladymondegreen.livejournal.com
Agreed, absolutely. I really dislike the way we try to gloss over sorrow with anger and rejection. If we could let ourselves be sad, then we could let ourselves heal and celebrate the people we've lost in meaningful ways.

Thank you for posting this.

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